Why is positive parenting important?

Every therapist knows the answer to this question. Because most of our problems have roots in our childhood and the type of parenting we have had. If you were lucky enough and have had a good parenting, you would grow into an adult with few mental health issues.

When a client comes to a therapist with any issue, the root of the problem is invariably in the past events that had occurred in your childhood. More than 90 percent of our mental health issues have taken roots from the time you are in your mother’s womb until the age of around 15. Yes it is right.

New computer

When a baby is born, it is like a new computer you bought from the store. It comes with basic software in order that you can switch it on and begin to download new applications. Same way we are born with some natural survival instincts such as to feel hungry, to find mothers breasts, to cry and so on.

All the rest are gradually programmed into the baby’s brain just as you would download necessary applications such as microsoft word, excel etc. into your personal computer.

How is the baby’s brain programmed? It depends on the environment it is growing with: the parents, the carers, the family, the larger family, the school, the teachers, the peers, the friends, the TV, the news, the social media and so on.

So by now you know the significance of parenting and the influence you have on the life of your child.

The problem is that the baby absorbs everything that is happening around whether good or bad. As a parent, you have a huge responsibility to ensure your child is exposed to right kind of experiences.

The best gift

So the best gift you can give to your child is to learn how to be a good parent and to practice what you learn.

To get more information and guidance on how you can make a positive contribution to your child’s life, please contact via email: info@haztherapy.com

Undesirable habits

Many of us develop habits during the course of our lives. Some are desirable and some are not. Say, habits such as smoking, binge drinking, gambling, womanising, procrastinating, worrying, not doing anything and so on to name a few.

No wonder in the deepest of your own self, you are not happy about the undesirable habits. May be you know that they are not benefiting you. And you genuinely want to change them, but you can’t! Why? Can you guess?

Subconscious mind

Human mind is designed to store information, to store the tasks that are to be repeated in future. Any task that is repeated certain number of times get templated and stored in our mind for future use to reduce the memory capacity of the brain to be used at a certain point of time. It is same the RAM of your computer.

Your subconscious mind stores tasks that you have repeated many times, so that it becomes automatic to save the hassle of learning it again and again. Suppose you are learning car driving. In the beginning it looks very difficult as you have to consciously remember every step. Once you have had a number of driving lessons, the driving task gets templated into your brain. Once you repeated all required manoeuvres certain number of times, you pass the driving test and it gets templated into your brain and next time you drive the car, you don’t need to consciously remember the process. It becomes automatic for you!

In the same way, your good and bad habits get templated into your subconscious mind. Once they get into your subconscious mind, it becomes very hard to remove them. Only a therapist who can work with your subconscious mind using hypnosis can help you.

Get help

If due to poor parenting experiences or due to poor peer group influence, you have developed some undesirable habits, and you are unable to get rid of them, please get professional help.

Contact info@haztherapy.com for help and guidance and make your life meaningful.

Importance of your relationships

It is a pity that most of us are fed up of the stressful relationships in our lives. We have constant friction with our spouses, our children, our colleagues and our family members. Everybody is trying to run away from one another. Husband is trying to run away from wife and wife from husband. The employee gets fed up with the boss and is looking for greener pastures. The parent is getting frustrated with his or her child for not ‘listening’ to them and so on.

Secret

We are all therefore trying to run away from one another or from one experience to another not knowing that the secret to our personal and spiritual growth lies in hanging on to the relationships despite conflict and friction, not knowing that conflict and challenges are just the seeds of our own development that can bear wonderful fruits providing you understand the secrets of the purpose and meaning of the conflict and be patient with it.

Don’t run away

So don’t run away. Hang on there. Be patient. See the meaning and purpose behind every conflict. Soon you will see wonderful results.

If you need further help and guidance in this direction, seek help at info@haztherapy.com