If I have the power to communicate with the whole world, one message I want get across every parent, every community, every school, every nation, every president or prime minister is this. Please never underestimate your power to make or break the life of your child. Because all of you have influence the life of every child, and thereby influence their lives, and thereby change the society and thereby change the world.
A child is like blank slate on which you can write the child’s life story. Without much going about this, I want to share some basic parenting tips which can bring significant changes in the life of the child and the world.
First things first. The starting point is love. Love, love and love only. For the child to feel secure, to feel attached, to bond with you, to learn to love, to learn to reciprocate love, to grow, to survive, the child needs love and caring. This is not negotiable.
Next is the caring and nurturing. Care for your child consistently. Fulfil their needs both their biological and emotional needs consistently. For the child to grow into a caring person, the child needs to be cared for.
Provide a positive environment around the child. Never forget that a child is like a sponge and keeps absorbing information all around them. Child can absorb both negative and positive information. What do you want the child to learn. Just do it yourself. For example, if you want your child to be loving, be a loving spouse yourself. Then your child can grow to be a loving spouse. if you keep squabbling with your family members, having friction with them, if you are being negative in your interactions, that is what the child is going to pick.
Be compassionate with your child. Be with them when they are upset. Teach them to handle their emotions. Take their upset and be their container. Containment is a key aspect on how to deal with emotions. When they learn to handle their emotions well, they grow up into a wise person who can deal with any emotion easily without impacting their and other’s lives. Don’t you see the violence in the world? It is all because one is not able to handle their emotions and they take it out on others.
Teach them good values. What is important in life? Money, materials, jobs, properties, status, luxuries, fame ……..? What do you think will give true happiness? Where do you think happiness comes from? From outside stuff or from deep within?
Be like a friend to your child. For them to listen to you, listen to them first. Respect them as a person. Connect with them. Without this connection, you will never develop a healthy relationship with your child and your child will not be able to develop a healthy relationship when they grow to be adults.
Be careful with your words. Words are powerful. Everything you utter is going to be taken seriously by the child. Your words repeated consistently can seep into the child’s subconscious mind and become deep-rooted. Once deep rooted, they become beliefs. These beliefs run their lives. And then it is very hard to change them. Familiar with the things and habits you want to change and cannot?
Many parents seek help from me when it is too late. The things you can do from the very beginning of your child’s life are so simple and easy to do, only if you learn how to do it. Growing a child is like building a house from the very foundation and brick by brick. When the foundation is weak and the bricks are not placed and adhered properly, the building will invariably going to crumble and fall.
Don’t ignore this task of caring the child. You can be the architect of their lives. You can contribute to a positive world and make this world a better place. For more information and help, please contact me. I am more than willing to help.